49 and 47-year-old property owners shut down unrelenting friends after they repeatedly try to invite themselves over for vacation at their lake house: 'He finally got a hint'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Jul 16, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

Some of us seek the outdoors to get away from it all, while others chase the serenity that comes with nature. For this particular couple, their lake house was not only an investment in their outdoorsy well-being but a refuge from their bustling everyday lives. 

They would never let their friends—regardless of their 15-year friendship—demolish the quiet solitude of their abode. Strictly following their own boundaries of socialization, they were able to thwart the imposing efforts of their friends and fight back against their pushy demands. 

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  • My home is my sanctuary. I understand that many people have a revolving door at their house, hoping for visitors and inviting friends over at every opportunity, but for me, my home space is sacred. It's where I retreat from society and enjoy my clear space, and it's where I go to get away from it all! 

    So if I ever have a lake house (fingers crossed), you better believe that I won't be accepting every self-invitation from every schmuck on the street—no matter who you are, you won't be invited to my lake house. Especially if you're pushy and insistent…

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  • ORIGINAL POST: My husband (49) and I (47) own a lake house and live there full time. We both work and are fairly busy most every weekend with projects around the home, going out on our boat, meeting local friends,
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  • ORIGINAL POST: My husband (49) and I (47) own a lake house and live there full time. We both work and are fairly busy most every weekend with projects around the home, going out on our boat, meeting local friends, hiking, going to concerts and out to dinner. We also value our privacy.
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  • We went out to dinner with friends recently (a husband and wife) and the husband tried to invite himself and his wife to our lake house numerous times throughout the course of the dinner. My first response was to let him know
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  • we are extremely busy over the next few weeks (our grandkids are coming to visit for a week, we are traveling, etc. - NOT that we even need to give a reason for not wanting them to visit). A few minutes later, he brings up the
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  • subject again, trying to invite himself and his wife to our house sometime during the next few weeks. He was overbearing, obnoxious and unrelenting and I think he finally got a hint that we're not interested in having
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  • them stay with us. His wife just stayed quiet the whole time he interrogated my husband and I, while trying to convince us to let them stay with us. Additionally, my husband doesn't trust him
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  • What is interesting to note is that they used to have access to one of their family member's lake homes (located near our home) and they'd stay there often during the course of the
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  • summer. Whenever my husband and I would try to plan something with them, they rarely had time to see us. I don't understand how some people can be so blatantly manipulative and rude.
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  • UPDATE: I sent her a message letting her know her husband made my husband and I uncomfortable with his relentless pursuit of what I translated as inviting himself to stay with us at our house and she responded with a completely different take on it. And I
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  • know for a fact that they no longer have access to their family member's lake house so what in the world is she trying to say and by no means did they ever insinuate that they wouldn't be staying at our house:
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  • Well, to be honest, that message caught me off guard and hurt quite a bit. I am sorry you did not feel comfortable saying something on Friday night; however, I do not recall **** even asking to stay with you. The
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  • discussion was primarily about visiting you at the lake, and as you know, we have a house to use, or we can stay in hotels. I know you and **** have a few friends and acquaintances who take advantage of your kindness, but I never felt that we were in that group. It
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  • has started to feel a lot from my end that the invitations to see you and are less and less, and I feel that I have to really pull to get you to make plans with me. Maybe I should take that as a sign. I need to take a bit of time and
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  • work through the realization that my friend of almost 15 years, whom I stood up for as her maid of honor, is made uncomfortable at the thought of my husband and me wanting to come visit.
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  • Queenfan1959 NTJ. I'd cut all ties with them. My BIL is like this the only way to stop him is to ask him "Do you not understand the word NO?" He still pushes things and I just say NO! Now we've cut all ties to them It's your house and you choose who visits not him Good luck
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  • Different One265 To those kind of people life is a puzzle. You were the next piece towards their end goal.
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